Like birth, creation is a painful process. To be able to create, one has to destroy first, and destruction is synonymous with pain. I have seen people who have been with you for the last forty years and they are still petty, still full of the small self. I do not want that. To reach the goal you have to be turned inside out, burned with the fire of love so that nothing shall remain but ashes, and from those ashes will resurrect the new being, very unlike the previous one. Only then can there be real creation. For this process is destruction, creation and love. Another name for Love is Pain and Effort.
– From Chasm of Fire: A Woman's Experience
With the Teachings of a Sufi Master by Irina Tweedie